The final straw.
The straw that broke the camel's back.
Not that I'm a camel you understand.
This weekend I have gone a little bit....dislodged shall we say. Discombobulated. Finally accepted that perhaps you can't do everything all the time. Accepted that sometimes principals have to be flexible. Accepting that help does not equal failure.
Tomorrow I am going to go to my GP and plead to be signed off work for a period. I cannot do it all. I just can't cope. It's been brewing for a while and in the last five days, I have fought off anxiety attacks like nothing else. I have been constantly on edge and unable to concentrate on anything at all. I could barely bring myself to play properly with Wriggles, couldn't get dressed til gone noon. I know we all have off days, but I know this is me falling apart.
I was so keen to prove everything I wasn't, I insisted on trying to work when Wriggles was in NICU, a decision I very much regret now as I near burnt myself out running between the office and neonatal, sitting by the cotside long into the night until the last train home. I was of course next to useless in work as all I could think about was Wriggles, and I couldn't start the day until I had rang the unit. The only thing that eventually stopped me was Wriggles not being able to kick the oxygen habit, and that she would need a full-time stay at home carer. Four months later via Intensive Care, I returned to work. Throughout the Great Summer of Illness, I would spring back to work hours after we had left the hospital. I was too scared to ask for time off, time to come to terms with things, times to set my head straight, time to see my baby girl being well. I was so grateful to be still employed so I could prove everyone wrong, I railroaded through every dip when I was sinking in periods of depression and stress and all over the place. I made mistakes left right and centre and time and time again would return to the nice counselling lady weeping. Now, enough. Eighteen months on, I have finally realised I am doing us both a disservice. I need to just concentrate on being a Good Mum before I can become a Competent Person again.
I am under no impression this is the easy route. I now I will have to be extra-extra-extra-frugal and this is not a long term fix. I still fully intend to provide by myself as soon as I can. I know this will not magic away bad feelings or that suddenly life will be rosy. I know it will be just as exhausting running after a small toddler.
So. Um. What do you do as a SAHM?
(Assuming my GP agrees!)