Freedom: proof

Such ordinary pictures, days of nothing special, and yet for my 3 year old each one is a momentous occasion. I took for granted that walking comes naturally to children, babies even, until I had a premature baby who was later diagnosed with spastic cerebral palsy. 

Since the days turned into weeks and then months when allotted milestones came and went, un-met we have done a lot of physio, used gaiters, AFOs, a Kaye walker and a daily muscle relaxant medicine in aid of walking. We have swam, bounced, sung, pleaded over steps and supported, held up and wiped tears when things wobbled. I have cried into my pillow and Wriggles has cried into me (or hit me with a stuffed tiger). But we are getting there. Each step of freedom makes my heart sing louder and if that what it does to me, I can only imagine what it does to an already perfectly confident child like Wriggles, whom quite regularly refers to herself as both "brave" and "clever".

Each step is so hard won: the cruelty of cerebral palsy is that even for those more mildly affected, the tiniest of set backs can prove huge. Each achievement can be crushed by the simplest of things. Growth spurts wreak havoc as muscles and bones grow at different times and rates and the signals in the brain get mixed up. Small viruses sap strength that takes weeks to get back to baseline. In an instant, core strength is halved. Which makes these memories and pictures all the more special. We got there. Wriggles got there.

At the moment, we are still suffering the after effects of Wriggles' recent intensive care admission. She has been out of hospital for two weeks, out of intensive care on sedation for three weeks, but still can only crawl or sit up. Her hard won steps have once again slipped away from her. I know she will win them back again and these weeks of frustration as she yells "I WAAAAAAAAAAAAAALK!" only to fall down because she can't stand up will melt away. It has just been a reminder that the battle is won, but not over. For now.

 

Missing Gaps

Before I jump in with life post-intensive care #2, I'll back track. Wriggles recovered from her tonsillectomy after a tense fortnight of religious administration of Calpol and ibuprofen and by the end of July you would not have been able to tell that weeks ago she had had surgery. Her breathing pattern whilst asleep improved-if anything it unnerved me how quiet she was! I was so used to sleeping next to someone who sounded as if they had tumbled out of the pub after downing their body weight in pints, that to have the serenity of near-silence needed some getting used to. Where as at the turn of the year, I would have to regularly check her colour with a torch in the middle of the night (she had obstructive sleep apnoea caused by the large tonsils and adenoids and a great fear of mine was that she would pause in breathing and just not start again. Her breathing was really quiet noisy and so the moments when she did apnoea were almost deafening in their quietness) I was now prodding her every now and then to check she actually was breathing, such was the change in noise levels! Once we had got through the recommended 10-14 days of rest, there was no stopping her. Especially as we had our first real holiday in the first week of August!

We flew down to the south west coast to spend a week with my parents and godparents in a holiday cottage by the sea. My parents go annually, and have since they met, to a folk festival on the coast and we took full advantage of there being a spare room in a picturesque seaside town with nearby playground! It was wonderful: we spent 7 days surrounded by friends and family, with sunshine, swings and company on our doorsteps. We also got to meet fellow preemie mum and blogger Diary of a Premmy Mum and the delightful Smidge, which was very special to finally meet someone you connect with 'virtually' who knows so much both about your life, but more importantly understands what you have been through and what it means to come out the other side. We slowly made our way back north, but via two more friends to stay with for a few days each that we rarely get to see due to the distance. The last friend we stayed with was one of my closest university friends, now herself a single parent with a beautiful little baby boy and it just rounded off a perfect holiday with someone I adore and who knows all too well the bringing up of a small person alone.

And then, at the end of August and beginning of October, something amazing happened.

Wriggles took her first independent steps. At just shy of 3 years old, she stumbled across to a toy, beaming from ear to ear. I hadn't known she would be able to so soon; I and the physios and doctors had wondered that it might take months or even years longer. But she showed her silly muscles and cerebral palsy just who was boss: her. Not just that, but suddenly she started putting words together, words that just kept tumbling out her mouth. Words I knew were there but for months and months she had been unable to speak and words we couldn't find signing for. And as she let loose the conversational floodgates, with practise her speech began to sound clearer so that other people could understand her too. I always knew she would get there in her own time and I knew it would be very emotional after the pure fight she has had to put up, but it just floored me. To see what she could achieve but above all how pleased she was. You assume they get frustrated, but if they haven't had a skill can they miss it? Judging by her little face every time, she was as happy as I was that she was getting there, if more so. It made the hours of therapy, the tears of heartache and the sleepless nights of anxiety worth it in a second. Of course I would have loved to re-write history and erase the premature birth and magic away the cerebral palsy and development delay, but in this world you can't change the past-but you can make some enormous strides forwards!

Wriggles turned 3 in September: it was bittersweet as usual with sharp memories of the day she was born and the terror of her delivery and subsequent hours not knowing if she were still alive, but fresh with her new skills of walking and talking, it made me proud to bursting point of how far she had come over time and the limitless possibilities she could yet achieve. Disabilities aside, she is a massively stubborn child with a keen streak of independence and knows exactly what she does and does not want, which many a time can cause friction but at the same time can really pay off in making big progress. At the end of the month she started preschool. The idea of preschool had plagued me with so much anxiety, not least because there were a few weeks whereby it appeared that the professionals who support us all appeared to be on completely different pages as to how we would manage preschool and what support may or may not be in place. Luckily it was resolved and after a good bit of prodding, we won funding for a 1:1 support worker for Wriggles. By the time preschool came around, we were both totally ready. The difference in the 10 weeks since we signed the paperwork and when Wriggles' first day was was astounding. I think she would have coped if she hadn't been taking some independent steps and been able to verbally communicate but there is no denying that achieving both those things made the transitional much easier for everyone involved. I wasn't surprised at how easily she settled and familiarised to the new routine and with both excitement and some sadness, accepted just how quickly my little girl who once fitted in my hand, was growing up.

On one hand, I was and am, very excited for this next chapter in our lives as Wriggles is thriving and growing up. And on the other, as silly or selfish as it may sound it just floors me. The last years have been a struggle. There have been some truly special moments and I would not trade any of it as every day has been with Wriggles who has changed my life upside down, but there is no covering up that even on the really good days: life has not been a bed of roses. I hadn't been prepared for parenthood 3 years ago and I was definitely not prepared for single parenthood. When I previously used to think about the future, bringing up a family of one, two or more on my own just did not even get a look in as even an outside possibility. Sometimes though, life has other plans and you either get on with it or you don't. And with some hindsight, it has been non-stop. Hospital admissions, my own mental health battles, health scares, lifestyle changes and the huge unknown that is a child's development when they have problems to contend with...it leaves you running on adrenaline just day to day. Because often if you stop and think, really think about it then you can tip over and fall into a big black hole. But if you keep running, keep savouring those moments of pride, those small steps, those little snippets of ordinary that you treasure for years to come; then that enables the days to keep changing, the world to keep turning and suddenly you get to a point and think, but in a really good way, "how the bloody hell did we get here?". I certainly would not have seen this point when we came home from NICU or even a year ago or less. And that is where I found myself as Wriggles happily settled into preschool and I suddenly could think and open my eyes a little wider. It threw me: for some reason it really rammed home this line we have been straddling, this balance of needs and wants, of what is expected and what happens. Things I haven't allowed myself to think about or miss because I had a very big priority who needed a high level of care all the time. And while that hadn't all just gone away, the world had shifted a bit and the path we have been walking on seems to have gotten wider as there are more possibilities now. As the health and development side of things have became less intense, I find myself floundering a little. I can't wait to enjoy it but a part of me is almost afraid to. Now I can stand and watch Wriggles fly across my vision, giddy with the feeling of being carried by her own two feet, holding herself up tall and proud. It reminds me that that is what I have to keep doing: if anyone can make sure I too put one foot in front of the other and keep going with a smile on my face, it will be her. 

Sorry, Wriggles

Some days I long to see you run off as if in flight, with the crowds of other children.

Some days I long to see you slurp up a drink noisily and blow bubbles through straws.

Some days I long to just go out for lunch with you and order something off the menu for you to eat: with pleasure. No syringes.

Some days I long to hear your voice join the little words you are learning.

Most days I feel at peace with how things are and focused on your abilities.

All days I feel so heartbreakingly proud of you (except maybe, when you are badgering me for Maisy Mouse DVD again).

And some days I feel bone-crushing guilt and sadness that I couldn't "fix" things for you.

That I can't wave a magic wand.

I feel angry we have to rely on so many people and are only adding to that team, to help you achieve what comes so naturally to other people.

When you cry during physio stretches, I am crying with you. I've just learnt to have invisible tears.

If I had a magic answer, I promise you I would have used it.

You are so good; so happy really. So full of beans, so scornful of fear.

So why do I feel so sad and guilty that I have somewhere failed you? 

How is it possible to feel so grateful, thankful and elated and simultaneously so muddled, confused and aching for this life you never envisaged to go back to being hidden?

Bright as a Button

Yesterday we had an excellent and slightly rare meeting.

Before Christmas we had a review with SALT (speech and language therapist) who ended it with "I'm not really concerned but....*trots out not one but two further referrals concerning lack of speech*". I was left thinking, jesus woman, just SAY IT-it's alright, I had actually noticed that most two and bit years olds have more than about 10 words on a really good day and thus things weren't running as smoothly as they could! It really frustrates me when people try and sugar coat things before ramming another thing through that just highlights you're in a pickle. I know they do it not to scare you silly and set off  the presence of the almighty (and frequently wrong) Dr Google, but then what actually happens is that you just get a bigger unpleasant shock when surprise, surprise, the next blunt-er professional you see says, "Do you know your child is delayed ...*insert delay shocker here* months?".

So anyway, we were referred to one speech parent & child group and also to the Early Years Support team, who are similar to portage. We are still waiting to the former as there is a waiting list and we had the latter meeting yesterday. It went better than I had hoped. Essentially, it was a play assessment to judge Wriggles' maturity through play and catch a glimpse of what amounts to her learning abilities and to get an idea of her intellectual capacity. Although speech does come into it, it helps to know if you're looking at a child with delay in all areas e.g. immature speech and some cognitive delay or immature speech on it's own. I was fairly confident that Wriggles is more or less on track cognitively and definitely for corrected age; then again I think the sun shines out of her arse so am probably not the best objective judge. 

The meeting was off to a good start when H, the EYS (Early Years Support) worker said Wriggles' reputation had preceded her and she has heard for months from her colleagues who know Wriggles through physio and Splish, Splash, Bounce that Wriggles is simply a sunny delight encased in a mad toddler. Cue first proud mum moment. Together with our SALT, we sat and watched and interacted with Wriggles playing around the room as well as vaguely discussing her history, what else is going on health-wise for her, future plans for nurseries and her communication boundaries. Pretty quickly, H said she felt that there was very little they could do from a referral point of view right now. Wriggles was clearly "as bright as a button" (second proud mum moment) and was demonstrating a good overview of play, both independent and social and seemed to have a good grasp of concepts, problem solving and memory. She did discuss with our SALT, C, about possibly referring us to a group of children with language delay just on single words (definitely us. I will fall over with surprise when Wriggles strings words together) but after the pair of them talked about it, it was decided that although that fits Wriggles' language needs, unlike the rest of the children currently in the group she doesn't have the cognitive delay also, so H felt the group would not push her enough as she needs appropriate input to facilitate speech. 

What this all essentially means, and the main thing that came out the meeting, is that when we come to looking at playgroups, nurseries and school we are looking at going into mainstream establishments. We will stay on EYS books so that when the time comes they can help us pick the most appropriate places and broker any meetings, alongside physio and the community nursing team. Depending on progress, it will need to be liaised to ensure it is a setting compliant with Wriggles' physical needs (which physio would mange, maybe by providing a walker or other mobility aid and possibly some assistance at times) and also a place supportive of Makaton and BSL signing as this still plays a big part in our lives and routine. I had worried that the physical and language delay might hold her back, and in one way it does. I have noticed, in her correct peer group, Wriggles does get left out physically because she hasn't the ability to run off, jump, move around in great strides-she is reliant on someone or something to move her. In a slightly younger group, it is still an issue but less so as slightly younger children don't bat an eyelid about crawling around or having a mum-walker whereas already I have seen 2- and almost 3 year olds 'baby' Wriggles in group situations because she seems at first glance, slightly more babyish in her movements or exchange of communication. But in another way, this meeting affirmed what I hoped to be true, that despite having some extra hurdles to overcome, Wriggles, possibly with some extra support and the right setting, should be able to settle nicely in her peer group and not just cope but thrive. H noted that through play, even though she doesn't have the speech currently, Wriggles demonstrated enough understanding and interest to be more than able to "join in" even in a less vocal capacity. Of course this is very early days, we haven't tried an educational setting yet and there is the whole other issue of needing feeding and a few sensory quirks Wriggles has. But one step at a time.

Because right now, I'm doing a jig on the moon and no-one can spoil it!*

This is possibly the first time we have had a meeting and not come out with another referral or after having another issue flagged up.

This is a great step when professionals note down Wriggles positives as well as problems.

This is one of the first times, if not the first time, I have come out thinking maybe, I am doing something right after all. Maybe I haven't buggered things up for her by either prematurity (thanks a bunch, womb), my own struggles with my mental health or by not being super mum with a play date here, an award winning toddler group there, French lessons, baby yoga, yadda yadda yadda. 

This is a moment I will savour and remember next time some ignoramus says "So, isn't she walking or talking yet? Why?". 

We might not have left behind prematurity or medical needs, but it is so nice to celebrate something for a change with those who oversee her development. And by the way, "nice" doesn't even do it justice. It is EPIC.




*don't you dare. Let me have my minute!

Stop Start

After a week of feeling on tenterhooks, this week draws to a close feeling a little....well I can't put my finger on it. Even without the scheduled PEG insertion, we had a full diary including a repeat video fluoroscopy and development review.

Monday afternoon, we trundled up to our favourite place (hospital) to have a review with the respiratory SHO to confirm whether or not the scheduled operation to insert a feeding tube and perform a respiratory and endoscopic review, would go ahead as planned. We had had no infections, no hiccups, and Wriggles was so full of beans since getting home she would not sit still for a minute. The consultant was delighted and flabbergasted at her immediate recovery as she tried to empty the nurses' trolley, and went off to tell the anaesthetist the good news. The anaesthetist had news of his own. And a mind of his own. He apologised but was not happy to go ahead as planned. Her chest may be (relatively) as clear as a bell and her energy levels enough for an Olympic team of athletes, but it had only been a week of no oxygen requirements and technically she could still be carrying the final dregs of infections. Sorry, but this week a PEG had to wait or he felt we would be having a reunion even if brief, with the staff on PICU on unpleasant terms. I don't regret his decision; I trust his skill and knowledge. It just felt a little deflating after mentally gearing up, packing a little hospital bag, trying to explain to Wriggles about nose-wiggly-worms and tummy-taps. 

It is now rescheduled for next week on the understanding that the whole thing may be cancelled again.

Tuesday morning, we had our first alarm-clock call since hospital for a repeat fluoroscopy. Wriggles had one last October which appeared clear, that dismantled plans laid 9 months previous for NG feeding prior to a PEG placement, that have now of course come up again and stayed. Barium, a radioactive substance, is added to fluids and food to show the swallow process in a moving X-Ray captured on film to be able to slow down and enlarge to get an accurate and in-depth picture. I packed a little tub of Quavers, a fromage frais and a bottle of milk. Wriggles had been nil by mouth for three weeks-surely this would be an exciting moment for her, albeit confusing? No. It was like the early days of her oral aversion again. She shrank away, clamped her mouth and cried in fear, confusion and revulsion. She held her arms out and shook her head. No amount of cajoling did anything. The girl was not drinking or eating. Apart from one Quaver with barely any barium on. Results: inconclusive. Apart from that everyone is now quite clear that feeding has been very complicated.

Today, was our development review that had been arranged for months. It was the appointment I was most relaxed about. As we have community and out-patient support that is ongoing and a fantastic and open team, I thought I was fairly clued up, at peace and relaxed. Important lesson: you don't know really how you feel about something until you hear it from a consultant. Much of the review was positive and complimentary. Funny how they are never the bits you take away. The bits that stay with me and linger in my mind and that will not go away are: 

Wriggles' developmental age is put at 14 months (she is 2 in three weeks, 21 months corrected).

That possible Cerebal Palsy diagnosis is becoming far more real and much more likely. It is not prevalent enough to diagnose here and now, but she is showing enough things to lead them to suspect it is present in a mild form, affecting three limbs.

Of course, both things are very black and white and there is so much in between. The development age does not take into account the various different areas and groups of skills, some of which she displays at a higher level. It doesn't take into account HER and her funny ways, her brilliant smile, her love of colouring, her new game of cuddling everything and her mad laugh which sounds like a manic sheep. It doesn't acknowledge in a breath her history, her bravery, her brilliance, her resilience...it is just a number. But it is a number that hurts, which is silly because it changes nothing and it is a snapshot of where she is now. She is not so affected that it is forever or for the next year, and even if it was, it means so little compared to the way she lights everything up.

And the CP thing. It's something that has been floating around as a possibility in varying degrees for ages; over a year. Just until recently, it could have been something that might have been a phase, something that might resolve. The muscle tone and core reflexes, which are the giveaways in our case, are showing less sign of going now. We have been working our way through things to help, some which are, but it is becoming apparent that they lessen symptoms for time periods, not resolve the central issue like was hoped initially. Partly, the issue has been partly masked by her amazing progress which has so delighted both me, family and the medical team she knows. She has achieved so much that it really is by the way. Our consultant has put us on the waiting list for an MRI and the plan for now is to press on with physio work. Both legs and her left arm have spasticity; her left leg more pronounced than her arm and right leg which are mild and unless you were a doctor with a keen eye and a tappy-stick, you would be none the wiser.

And so the waiting game goes on. Stop start stop start. Questions followed by answers, but not always the right ones. Followed by more questions. Some said out loud, many debated internally. Who knew it was possible to feel so proud yet so sad and confused.

Miracles do happen

Saturday 26th May, 2012

Wriggles' food diary

age 20 and a little bit months (17 and a bit corrected)

07:00

200ml Paediasure Peptide milk (high calorie formula milk that has been partially broken down to aid absorption)

09:00-10:40

Graze on small crumbs of biscuit found on the carpet. Buffet is interrupted by Mummy hoovering said crumbs up. Lord knows where they came from/how long they have been there

11:15

What are these delicious items?! About five Organix Tomato Slices (wheel shaped puffed corn type items. Mercifully containing no salt, unlike the beloved Quavers Wriggles has lived on for the past two weeks)

12:45

[ferrets in my handbag and thrusts yoghurt pot at me] "Mother, this here I believe is a yogurt and this is a spoon. Feed me!!"

Just over three quarters of an Alpro soya yoghurt, toffee flavoured

13:15

[mime] "What is that, mother?"

"My sandwich. Yum yum yum."

[grab]

"Errrr you can have A BIT. I need some lunch!"

"Hmph."

Chews a corner of malted bread: first time she has consented to trying to eat bread!

13:28

One cheese and onion crisp (Scottish Grandma's lunch)

Half a ready salted crisp (Mummy's lunch)

Several more Organix snack thingies

13:32

Stop trying to sneak food past me. I can see you have opened the chocolate rice cakes. Give!

A nibble of rice cake. Does not pass the taste test.

Another chew of becoming-stale corner of Mummy's sandwich

13:48

The end of a cardboard kitchen roll tube

13:50

160ml Paediasure Peptide with some chilled water as it is Very Hot

15:40

125ml Paediasure Peptide mixed with 25ml chilled water

17:30-18:25

Polish off remainder of Organix Tomato Slices bag and nibble on fingers

18:35

Two thirds of Alpro vanilla soya yoghurt with a about a quarter of Plum Apple and Raspberry stage one puree pouch whilst waiting for the metro back home

18:50

Few more spoonfuls of soya dessert and fruit with intermittent grazing of bit of sponge finger located under the bookshelf. (Note to self: must tidy up more often)

19:15

Chew fridge magnet.

Swiftly have fridge magnet removed.

Return to increasingly soggy sponge finger

19:40

150ml Paediasure Peptide

20:10

Gag on bottle and projectile vomit across collection of toys, sofa and carpet.

Looks suspiciously like entire teatime contents from 17:00 onwards*

20:45

125ml Paediasure Peptide as nightcap (and to replace the vast majority of dinner and previous attempted nightcap)

Ignoring the gag-induced vomiting, this is the most Wriggles has eaten for bloody ages.

It is also probably the healthiest she has eaten for bloody ages.

(Alright, it might not read very healthily, but largely she lives on a) high calorie milk which usually makes up around 90%+ of her daily nutritional intake b) Quavers-the curse of Speech and Language's suggestions c) occasional crumbs of biscuit, and not always sugar-free baby-friendly guilt-free ones at that)
It is certainly the most adventurous. She tried at least two new things. In one day.
Does this mean that my own meals are no longer sacred?!




*people always say airily of vomit "oh it's never as much as it looks!". However, Wriggles is very good at disproving this theory. On previous admissions, nurses have done double takes at the enormous pools of yuck on the floor and frequently have been known to exclaim mildly unprofessionally "Christ almighty, was that just in one sitting?" and her notes generally read 'vomit: MASSIVE +++'. She appears to have a pretty sluggish digestive system too and can quite easily soak a large adult bath towel. She has also previously (accidentally I sincerely hope) aimed into receptacles such as a mug and bowl. Classy.

Proud proud proud

In between some sad times this week, LOOK what my precious Wriggles has figured out!! A genius I tell you. A GENIUS.

Star Patient

A proud moment today as Wriggles crawled onto the trampoline at our rebound therapy session and her physio Jemma exclaimed she was her "star patient". This is brilliant news and such a boost, after more weeks of food refusal and a bug creeping in. Although Wriggles is the most able member of the group, it is still lovely to hear that other people are just as proud as me and see ever little change as a huge cause for celebration. The extent that the hydrotherapy lessons have helped Wriggles explore her legs and strengthen her torso and core muscles has surprised everyone.

Celebration

Crack open the bubbly, dust off the best cutlery (wait, I don't have best cutlery. Better give the normal stuff a swizzle under the tap then) and find your silver teapots!

WRIGGLES IS CRAWLING!!!!!

In a week she has nailed crawling, clapping, shouting down a cardboard tube and attempting to copy song actions to 'Wind the Bobbin'.

I know how infernal it is when parents boast of their precious offspring's achievements and how grating it is after a bad day when you are seething having tripped over the millionth Mega-Blok but look, I am allowed a little smug moment. Alright, quite a large smug moment.

All milestones are precious and although having only had one child, I cannot say for parents of "straightforward" children, but it means so much. It's one little less thing on my mind. Having a premature baby, or one that is sick or different for want of a better word gives things a new perspective both for their lives and your expectations. It is not to say that parents of such children love them more or have a better appreciation than parents without this experience, but I do think they have an acute awareness of each little thing. We have been inundated with medical and developmental knowledge, far beyond the literature that is normally given to parents. We have seen struggle. We have had days when we have to contemplate that we might not see our children crawl; not because they can't but because they might not be there. We also might have to come to terms with the fact some of their abilities may be impaired, so every little thing is a joy.

Growing up: Wriggles in Review Rooming in and Going Home

If SCBU was fraught with mixed emotions and sadness, rooming in was sheer elation. It marked a very significant point in our journey: 1. home time and beginning of my true journey of parenthood and 2. the first private moment with Wriggles since the very first moment of birth, (which to be honest was not great as I was trying to speak to emergency services whilst administering CPR whilst holding her in the crook of my arm still attached via umbilical cord in a state on intense shock).

The nurses had tried three times to leave Wriggles in air to test whether she was dependant totally on the oxygen. Unfortunately she was, and her sats would dip to worryingly low levels quickly without it. And this was without energy consuming activities like feeding! So the oxygen tanks were ordered and on Saturday 13th November, exactly two months old, I moved in to the parents flat with my overnight bag and a jittery sense of excitement. It was bizarre but just what I needed. Being on our own was bliss. It was such a relief to be able to cuddle her for as long as she would tolerate, feed her on demand and say whatever I wanted without someone listening it. And best of all, it was how I imagine! I fell in love even further and it confirmed that my deepest wish was to have my baby with me forever. The weekend went smoothly and on Monday we were officially signed out and free to go! I was slightly nervous; being a mum in hospital was one thing but home with no one to ask advice of right away was another. Plus she was on oxygen, increasing SIDS risk and everything had to be super-sterile as the risk of germs to a premature baby are well, risky, and even more wobbly to one on oxygen with Chronic Lung Disease.

I think unstrapping Wriggles out of the carseat in my flat is possibly one of my proudest moments to date. It officially marked the end of SCBU and the beginning of complete Independence. I kept expecting the hospital to ring up and say there had been a mistake, but of course they didn't. Everything felt such a novelty being at home.

Later that day, one of the community nurses came out to check we were settling in fine and to go over any questions about the oxygen cannisters. Someone would visit twice a week to check her sats (to ensure they were 94% and above) and weigh her weekly to make sure that she was still growing at a suitable rate, as having weaker lungs meant that much more energy was diverted into breathing rather than being a baby. Wriggles settled in very well. So well, she rapidly went for a nap. Seeing her in the moses basket, dwarfed, was a lovely moment. It was so homely and cosy, and no-one had wanted to take her temperature and count her respiratory rate for at least 24 hours! Oh dear. That meant it was down to me.....