Sunday, February 9

Feeding Tube Awareness Week: day one, our story

Our first experience of tube feeding was like most preemies, in NICU. We had to wait weeks for Wriggles to be at the gestational age whereby she could suck, swallow and breathe at once and even then it took weeks to build up her oral feeding, ml by ml as she tired easily. We graduated without the tube though and settled down to a turbulent first year of life with the added bonus of frequent and projectile reflux. After her first foray into PICU (Paediatric Intensive Care) shortly after weaning had commenced with relative success, Wriggles lost interest in solids. She didn't just loose interest in it, she went berserk. At around 8 months old, I could not offer her food to eat, touch or play with, I could not put either empty or full utensils near her and I could not eat near her myself as she would scream and scream as if in terror. I was loosing my mind with worrying-my only consolation was that our childminder reported the same difficulties in trying to feed her also, so even on the darkest days I rationally knew it was probably not entirely me doing something wrong. By her first birthday, Wriggles would very occasionally and with much reluctance take small amounts of yogurt off a spoon and her bottles. Her coordination was still off to self-feed and at this point she was still not sitting which didn't help brilliantly either. "Fuss pot" didn't even begin to describe her attitude towards bottles either and she self-weaned off using a pacifiers as dummies began to make her gag and subsequently vomit. During the times we were home between hospital admissions, my flat was a homage to washing vomit out of every conceivable item of clothing or furnishing and when she went to bed I would sit and cry. Shortly after she turned one, we had a fairly serious hospital admission. It was agreed her feeding difficulties were getting out of hand and there seemed to be a very viable link to her repeated chest infections. She would go home with an NG tube.

We stayed in hospital for nearly 3 weeks whilst they ran some tests, she kicked the infection (and required oxygen) and I was trained how to tube feed. On the last day, a consultant decided to scrap the plan and re-try forcing the issue with oral feeding, different formula and a new course of medication aimed at controlling the reflux which was still at large. We were promised community help and sent home with instructions to keep stuffing her as much as she would take. The "help" was patchy and it continued to be a struggle. We tried several formulas to try and get on top of weight gain and got the reflux to a manageable level. Solids however were another issue. Over the next 9 months I tried so many things to move things along. They didn't budge. She would drink nothing except from milk out of a bottle with a specific teat and gradually she began to drop the levels she was drinking. Whilst I never had fears about hydration, her weight was another story and it became obvious that whilst the milk might be nutritionally complete, she just couldn't or wouldn't take enough of it to satisfy her body.

Looking back through photographs, I do sometimes wonder if I have got our story quite right. So many pictures are Wriggles with food; Wriggles painting herself or the chair with food; Wriggles in a cafe... The reality of course is that these relatively happier or chilled out times were SUCH high points that of course I whipped the camera out. Each time I had no idea if it was a fluke and if it would be months or ever that the time in question was to be repeated and I wanted hard evidence it could happen to help me on the darker days when I felt like I had failed my baby and wonder if we would ever get the "normal" experiences that are associated with feeding.

A (very rare) eureka moment:

This isn't a great picture, but Wriggles was getting skinner and skinnier. Prior to getting the tube for good, she began falling gradually then speedily through the centiles on the all hallowed growth chart. Even allowing for corrected age and periods of illness, she had gone from being your average 50th centile kiddo to sitting at the bottom and not looking like she was going to pick up any time soon. You could see her ribs and her arms were like twiglets. The last time we saw her dietitian before the admission, when she picked her up you could see her face fall. She said there and then "uh-oh"; I later found out she immediately had emailed our paediatrician and advised at the very least NG top ups. Fate, or rather Wriggles and her preemie lungs had other ideas though and we soon were on an NHS mini break again for most of August 2012.

 Then this happened:

Wriggles was not happy about being NG fed. I was not happy about her being NG fed. The community nurses who had to quite literally sit on her to re-pass the NG tubes she refluxed up daily were not happy about her being NG fed. But goodness was I relieved we at last had a plan. I knew instantly that tube feeding was the right thing to do, because when the consultant told me that we would be going home with one and that this was going to be our new normal for the time being at least, all I felt was sheer relief washing over me. I might not have jumped for joy but I knew we were at the end of the line: we had tried, god almighty had we tried, but things were not getting better and we were getting into riskier and riskier territory playing Russian roulette with Wriggles' health and that is not on. Tube feeding is not an easy option, it is a last resort. But when you get to that place, having a tube is like being in Monopoly and getting an out of jail card.

Luckily everyone decided that an NG was not a long-term solution and so we got slotted into surgery pretty quickly for a PEG (G tube)...

...which made things much easier! Whilst surgery is never easy and I found the initial week a struggle, it was the best thing all round. When Wriggles was first in recovery coming round after the anaesthetic and screaming the place down (whilst the nurse was reeling off all the pain relief she had already had which was not touching the sides...) and I saw the PEG dangling out of her beautiful previously unblemished stomach, I felt sick at what I had consented to have done. However, once the pain had settled down for her it was obvious that the new chapter we had started was a good 'un. Like NG feeding, we had to settle down into a pattern of working out what was the best rate for her. At first she did not tolerate bolus (quick) feeds well and for quite a while we relied on the pump., Her volume tolerance, even now at 3 years old, has always been on the low side and I still have to rely on gut (ha!) instinct, common sense and a quick assessment to avoid my carpet getting covered in regurgitated feed.

Last summer we swapped the PEG for an AMT mini button which I now love. Wriggles calls the extension her "tail" and most of the time is pretty nonplussed about being tube fed. The truth is, she probably can't recall any other way. She never ate enough solids, if any at all, for them to provide even a contribution to calories and nutrition to fill her up and her drinking was tailing off and warning signs of aspiration into her lungs were sounding like a klaxon so there was not a great deal of choice. We still have a long way to go with introducing consistent feeding and upping volume anywhere beyond "tasters" and have only just begun to reintroduce fluids. But she is healthy and the main thing is that she is getting the nutrition she needs, and also the medications she requires. Since we began tube feeding we have ditched the complete high calorie formula she was fed round the clock and switched to a blenderized diet. Given her lack of eating, I wasn't 100% about how her body would handle solids but after a very gradual changeover she has been fine with just about everything as long as the volume isn't too much and it isn't overly fatty. She how has 3-4 boluses of pureed food down the button at conventional meal times and fluid boluses in between; anything orally is a bonus and she will eat crumbs of cheese scones, toast, Pringles (my nemesis, I detest them now), the arms and legs of gingerbread men and nibbles of sausages. I still can't tell you exactly why she didn't before and still doesn't like eating or why we still get into cycles of all out refusal. The tube is as much here to stay as it was when it was first placed, but that isn't to say it will be forever.

This week is Feeding Tube Awareness Week, with the brilliant theme of "nothing will hold us back". Getting a tube can initially throw a proverbial spanner in the works, but once you find your groove it seeps into your routine until it is another way of feeding. We might still be too new to add the "just another way of feeding"; it is after all a very emotive and physically obvious difference. But feeding tubes are necessary for a huge variety of reasons. They may not look like it, but for many children and adults are not just life saving or nutrition related devices, but are compassionate. Getting a feeding tube has allowed my Wriggles to become to self-assured, mischievous and energetic little person she is today and that is why I am passionate about this week.

1 comment:

  1. You've had such an amazing journey so far and demonstrate such strength and determination to keep fighting for Wriggles. I am just in awe, wow. x